Important Terms To Understand Before You Mediate Your Divorce

Author: Brian James | | Categories: divorce mediation , divorce mediator , family mediation services , Mediation , mediation training


Every industry has its own language and terms. These words and phrases can be confusing to anyone who is not part of the daily operations of a specific industry, and the divorce mediation business is no exception.

To help you understand the terms, acronyms, and phrases regularly used when working with a divorce mediator, C.E.L & Associates, Inc. has created this handy reference guide. Here you’ll find valuable information allowing you to comprehend and communicate your divorce mediation needs effectively.

Mediator: Is a neutral party who facilitates agreements necessary to get divorced.

Parenting allocation judgment: It is the parenting schedule, which includes holidays, and whether decisions for your children will be shared or one of you will be making certain decisions.

Marital settlement agreement: It is the financial terms of your divorce, including who keeps the house or whether it will be sold, retirement accounts, credit card debt, and division of assets.

Prove-up: It is the date you go to court before the judge to get divorced.

Equitable: It is the standard by which the judge will decide if your settlement is appropriate for you to get divorced in the State of Illinois.

Litigation: It is when you cannot mediate your divorce, and it goes to court for the attorneys to advocate on your behalf and possibly have a trial about the terms of your divorce.

QDRO: It stands for qualified domestic relations order and is the document that authorizes the transfer of retirement accounts from your spouse to you or from you to your spouse.

Attorney-assisted mediation: It is when attorneys participate on your behalf in the mediation process to give you legal advice while you are advocating for yourself in mediation.

Judge: It is the person who will decide whether the terms of your divorce are appropriate when you go to court for a prove-up of your divorce.

Mediation-friendly attorney: It is who you want to handle the legal piece during the mediation process if you are mediating your divorce.

Financial affidavit: It is the sworn disclosure statement telling your spouse and the court that you have disclosed all of your assets and debts which is required before you can get divorced.

Pre-marital or non-marital assets: These assets are off the table for financial settlement if they were acquired before the marriage or are not subject to sharing with your spouse for other reasons.

Petition: It is the lawsuit filed on your behalf or your spouse’s to start the legal process of your divorce.

Respondent: It is the person who did not file the lawsuit to begin the legal process of your divorce, but needs to respond to the petition.

Petitioner: It is the person who files the lawsuit to begin the divorce process.

We hope these terms made you feel more confident about connecting with a divorce mediator.

If you are looking for a parenting coordinator or divorce mediator in Chicago, IL, reach out to the experts at C.E.L & Associates, Inc. We always offer compassionate services and keep your family’s best interests at heart.

We specialize in pre-decree divorce agreements, post-decree divorce agreements, marital/family mediation, and co-mediation services.

We offer our services across Chicago, Libertyville, Rolling Meadows, Northbrook, Kenosha, Crystal Lake, Naperville, and Paddock Lake from our multiple offices.

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